When it comes to sexual turn ons, men and women are very different. It is not a myth that women are attracted to a man who is comfortable with his emotions. It is also true that many women are on the hunt for an attractive man who knows how to treat a lady right! The following is a list of the top ten female turn ons gathered from hours spent listening to women tell it like it is.

1. A man who can make you feel like a woman
For many women, respect is the number one thing that they look for in a man. Not only is it a prerequisite, it is also a big turn on! A man who respects a woman and appreciates her for who she is has the power to make her weak in the knees.


2. A man who is not afraid to take charge

Women like strength and not just physical strength. Women like to think that their man can take charge of any situation. Giving a woman a feeling of protection is endearing as well as arousing.

3. A man who can be dominated
All relationships involve a power dynamic. A man can be strong with his woman, but must also be able to surrender some of that power. A woman likes to take control sometimes and feels sexy when a man is ready and willing to respond to all her demands.

4. A man with a sensitive side
Contrary to popular belief, women are not looking for a man who wants to talk about his emotions constantly. Sensitivity is a good thing but more important is to be emotionally well-balanced. One of the biggest female turn ons is having a man who is not afraid to show his emotions.

5. A man who can hold his own
A man who is unable to take care of himself turns women off! Being self-sufficient reassures a woman that she will not have to handle everything in a relationship. Men who are overly dependent are perceived as weak and that is not an attractive quality!

6. A man who is successful
Success does not necessarily mean wealth. Women feel comfortable with the fact that a man can support himself and his family. Most women are looking for a man who is ambitious and passionate about life. A successful person appears more confident and confidence is always a turn on.

7. A man in uniform
Sorry men, but this is not a myth. Women love a man in uniform! Although firefighters and policemen top the list, most likely any uniform will do!

8. A man with a great body
Women are not nearly as fixated on this one as men are, but women are also turned on by a man with a fantastic body. Women have differing ideas about what is physically attractive in a man, but wide shoulders and a cute backside doesn’t hurt!

9. A man with a brain and a sense of humor
Although it may be fun to have a fling with the male version of Barbie, women are more turned on by men who are smart and funny. A dim-witted dullard gets boring fast. Women want their fires lit by someone who can tell a good joke and can challenge them intellectually.

10. A man who is good with kids
Many men dread this one, so thank goodness it is number 10 on the list. Women are not necessarily picturing you as the father of their children, but it is endearing to see the nurturing side of a man. Men might not want to hear it and women might not like to admit it, but a man holding a baby is beautiful and a turn on!


About the Author - Marisa Pellegrino is freelance journalist and a writer for a Montreal radio show called Passion, a program about dating, relationships, and sex. She is also the writer/webmaster for Dating Ideas a website with advice about dating and relationships.

Basically, Dr Fulbright says:

1. Motherhood should not make you celibate

Motherhood should not make you celibate. Instead, you need to see yourself as a hot mama, switching on your Marilyn Monroe persona the second you get your lover alone. For your sake, for your family’s sake, you need to temporarily forget that you’re known as an asexual “mommy” most of the day. You need to nurture your sex life with as much zest as you put into your childcare. Happy parents make for happy families.

2. Be responsive in the sack

Most of us don’t like to have sex with a corpse. Don’t just lie there ... Move! Make noise. Do anything but play dead! If you want your lover to keep coming back, you need to go beyond the missionary position.

3. Stay feminine.

Strive to stay trim and look your best, and apparently effortlessly at that. While he wants you to be the girl-next-door in so many ways, he also wants to eternally see you as his sex goddess.

4. Don't judge his porn

Unless you’ve been replaced by his passion for pornography(PvtCams.net), don’t give him a guilt trip for it. Instead of seeing his Playboy or Penthouse as a threat, see it as an enhancement.


5. Talk dirty
The occasional potty mouth can be a passion-inducer. So don’t be shy! Learn to talk dirty. I’m not saying sound like a trucker (unless that’s your thing). But don’t be afraid to get a little filthy. Who knows? You might deserve a good spanking for talking like that.


6. Own your body.

Big or small, short or tall, what men find a turn-on more than anything is how a woman carries herself — her confidence. This will help you boost your sex comfort and his.

7. Trash-talking other women.

Sure, you think she looks like a prostitute. But guess what? He does too — and is most likely loving it. Putting down other women in front of him serves as no more than a sign of insecurity. And that makes you unattractive.

8. Don't assume you'll be monogamous.

You’re not monogamous till you have the talk. Having sex is no guarantee of anything, including reciprocal feelings, love, and a future. So don’t make any assumptions. Be honest about what you want. Don’t use sex manipulatively

9. Don't ignore his nipples.

While known as a "girl-thing," nipples can be his thing too. Many men have sensitive nipples. In fact, some men have nipples that are more sensitive than their lovers'.

10. Don't use too much teeth.

When it comes to oral fixations, this feast should not involve fangs. Teeth scraping is not allowed.